Thursday, June 26, 2014

Tucson ACA Current Meeting Times as of September 2014

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Tucson Adult Children of Alcoholic                  and/or Dysfunctional Families.

Teaching the skills to Re-parent ourselves with Gentleness, Humor, Love and Respect.

Is ACA for Me?

An “adult child” is someone who meets the demands of life with survival techniques learned as children. Without help, we unknowingly operate with ineffective thoughts and judgments that can sabotage our decisions and relationships.

The only requirement in ACA is a desire to recover from the effects of growing up in a dysfunctional home, regardless of whether or not alcohol was a factor. There are no screening committees, questionnaires, or waiting periods to join. You are an ACA member when you say you are.

We commonly identify with these 14 traits (the "Laundry List") that describe the effects of being raised in an alcoholic or dysfunctional family:
  1. We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.
  2. We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.
  3. We are frightened of angry people and any personal criticism.
  4. We either become alcoholics, marry them or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs.
  5. We live life from the viewpoint of victims and we are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.
  6. We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc.
  7. We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others.
  8. We became addicted to excitement.
  9. We confuse love and pity and tend to "love" people we can "pity" and "rescue."
  10. We have "stuffed" our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (Denial).
  11. We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem.
  12. We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings, which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us.
  13. Alcoholism is a family disease; and we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink.
  14. Para-alcoholics are reactors rather than actors. (Codependents)
Identification with some or all of these traits provides a starting point of recovery for each adult child looking for help.

If you can relate, consider coming to a meeting


Monday


Monday 6:00 – 7:30pm
Water of Life Church 3269 N Mountain Ave
Just N of Ft Lowell – In Cerf Building (Closest to Mountain Ave)
Look for ACA Signs

Tuesday


Tuesday 5:30 – 7pm
( Women’s meeting )
Streams In the Desert Church 5360 E. Pima Street
Just West of Craycroft- off of N Woodland ave.
Look for ACA Signs

Wednesday


Wed. 5:30 – 7pm
(Red Book Study)
Streams In the Desert Church 5360 E. Pima Street
Just West of Craycroft- off of N Woodland ave.
Look for ACA Signs

Thursday


12 Step WORKBOOK Meeting
Work all 12 steps in 14 months with a fellow traveler

3rd Thursday @ 6pm
ACA 12 Step Workbook Meeting
Streams In the Desert Church 5360 E. Pima Street
Just West of Craycroft- off of N Woodland ave.
Look for ACA Signs

Friday


Friday 6:00- 7:30pm
(Self Parenting Focus)
Streams In the Desert Church 5360 E. Pima Street
Just West of Craycroft- off of N Woodland ave.
Look for ACA Signs

Saturday


Saturday 11:00- 12:30pm
(Becoming Our True Selves)
Dove of Peace Church 665 W. Roller Coaster Rd. (Park in BACK)
North on Oracle from River-Left on Roller Coaster rd.
behind ethan allen @ church
Look for ACA Signs

12 Step WORKBOOK Meeting
Work all 12 steps in 14 months with a fellow traveler

3rd Saturday @ 12:45pm
ACA 12 Step Workbook Meeting
Dove of Peace Church 665 W. Roller Coaster Rd. (Park in BACK)
North on Oracle from River-Left on Roller Coaster rd.
behind ethan allen @ church
Look for ACA Signs